Okay, here is one of the many problems with teens today(some of my friends have heard me talk about this before). Lets say for example you, whether boy or girl, become friends with someone of the opposite sex. And you begin to hang out with them, not a lot, just more than you used to while not being friends. Here is the problem. I think that there is an invisible time-line(limit, whatever you want to call it) when it comes hanging out with the opposite sex, that has been created by teens. I think that when you cross that line, they automatically think you like that person.That is where the problem arises. So what if you hang out with a friend of the opposite sex a lot. So what. That does not mean you" like " them.And that is what teens assume. As soon as you start spending too much time(in other peoples eyes) together with that other person, people start teasing you about whether you "like " that person. In some cases you may " like " that person, but in most cases, i believe that not to be that case.
I mean, this sort of thing just annoys the heck out of me. I have experienced this multiple times. I make a friend, one of the opposite sex, we hang out. Then after not too long, my other friends started saying i liked her, and that was not the case. We were just friends.But, anyhoo, more too come on my theories about problems with teenagers.
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A lot of my friends are guys, and I totally understand what you are saying. It's a sticky little situation, but if I'm not willing to navigate gossip-land, then I could be missing out on some great friendships.
I'm guilty of assuming such things. :( Mainly because, in my experience, girls tend to hang out with guys only because they like them. That's normally how it works around here. Of course, it's not always like that, but here it is a lot of the time.
You're right though, it is annoying as heck when that happens... I don't get along too well with males, mainly because they think I'm a stubborn, violent umm... Whatever, but you and MennoGirl're right, if you're willing to put up with rumors then you could end up with some amazing friends.
your absolutely right.....i couldn't agree more....
i think it depends on the type of interaction taking place
That senerio is so true!!!! Happens alot and it sucks!
Greg, what types of interaction are there?
haha, lots of types man. ;) i think the biggest thing is, are you and said girl hanging out by yourselves? one-on-one time is what's going to really send the message "hey, i'm interested." if you guys are all hanging out with a group of friends, i don't think anyone is going to notice or care
what r u laughing at FREANCH TOAST!!!!
I think I have to disagree with Greg. People do notice when your in a group, very much so.
I think it happens no matter what kind of interaction is taking place(but, greg does have a point). People notice all the time, for example...just being beside someone in a group for length of time can attract attention
I think people notice in a group. But that doesn't mean anything. I think it means a lot more when it's one on one, but that still doesn't always mean something. It's annoying when everyone thinks you like someone just because you're friends. But I would also say there are a lot of instance where people do like each other.
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